Isn't it funny how most people that say "isn't it funny" aren't saying something funny at all?....I mean, if it was so funny you wouldn't have to put up a disclaimer before you said it now would ya?
But really though, isn't it funny how everyone has their own kind of love? It's weird cause some people don't know this but each and every one of us is wired differently. It dawned on me that a lot of us just go through the motions, doing what we think is expected of us, calling the appropriate amount of times, saying the right things, blah blah blah.
When what we should be doing is finding what makes us happy and working at keeping it. People tend to meet some one, fall into a relationship and just stay because it's easier..then they wonder why one person cheats or even turns gay (hey, its happened). Just like in the movies love differs for everyone, to one person the cliché roses and chocolate spewing out of a huge stuffed toy is just what cupid ordered. But to some one else a picnic in a cemetery or a sparkly skull and bones ankle bracelet is what they need.
We Nigerian's in Naija don't try hard enough, when was the last time you saw two truly in love people on the streets? Our culture is different, yes. But love is love...the heart beats and we all want to be acknowledged. So why don't we try and find what works for us and focus on that?
Ok, once again I have drifted from my point. Love is different for everyone. One person wants a listener another wants a talker and even more complicated are those that want someone to use nipple clamps and a ball gag...but that's gist for another day.
Know what you want and if you find some one willing to give you 60% of that... Then know you can find 90%. Settling for less is for quitters and those who want contentment over excitement.
But hey, what do I know right?
Monday, June 28, 2010
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Tell me about it
Hey there peoples.. Sorry about the hiatus. Work is really getting the better of me, but not to worry I'm figuring it all out so there will be regular updates.
More to the point though, what you've missed....hmmm...well yours truly had a stint in the relationship game and well it was a short trip...but this isn't the time or place to be hashing out my love palava...lemme just say this.... I care a lot about her and the truth is that we just weren't to be. (Yeah..that's all your getting)
But as a newly single guy (once again) there seems to be a running theme everywhere I go...there was even an article on Bellanaija.com about "it"...yep I'm breaching the ever so delicate subject of "Sex". The article was about how no matter where you turn, sex is being thrown at you...you put on the radio in lag and Tools sexy voice is seranading you, you put on MTV and Beyonce has got another video showing of her extensive lingerie collection..and lest we forget those never ending curves. Oh and don't even get me started on Nikki Minaj...(Whoosaaah)
So what's that all about?...as a young well travelled young man.. I'm defiantly a victim to the sexual innuendo and joke on the regular basis but reading that article I really had to take a second and think it through...if its like his now..what the heck are our children in for?...casual sex has well and truly cracked the traditional, overly protective Nigeria and yes it's all still "under G" but I bet most of you either know people who are "friends with benefits" or even have some yourself.
I'm not here to judge...hails no!...I'm just hoping to get your minds on the same track as mine. Yes yes...sex is great but think about it...back when we were all innocents and then we had that 1st real kiss...come on guys..you know what I mean...that first time you felt something below the belt as the touch of that special someone. Personally when I look back my hopeless romantic side was soo strong back then, mine was under the moon light in a shopping centre walkway all dark, secluded and romantic. I stopped her mid speech.. Pulled her into me and laid the kiss on her..I'll never forget that day or that girl.
But since then it's not been the same. Some girls were amazing but some....weren't. The way I see is...the barrage of sex everywhere...and I mean everywhere (even toy story 3 had so many hidden jokes) this has desensitized us they same way movies have mad blood and guts a norm. Sex used to be a thing of love and passion but now its just a passed time.
Well, I'm done...I'm done with the thrill of the case, the lyrics and lies, I'm done with the guys meet where we rehash game plays and new skills acquired. Life is more than the horizontal mambo (although when done right it's defiantly worth the hassle). I aint running away from women oh, and I aint saying I'm turning into a monk...I'm just saying its time to live my life and stop letting social expectation run my everyday decision making...
Oh urm...I'd like to continue but uhhh... Someone just walked in here and I have to..errr...tell her some very important things...*wink*
Ps...thanx for the ginger kemi
More to the point though, what you've missed....hmmm...well yours truly had a stint in the relationship game and well it was a short trip...but this isn't the time or place to be hashing out my love palava...lemme just say this.... I care a lot about her and the truth is that we just weren't to be. (Yeah..that's all your getting)
But as a newly single guy (once again) there seems to be a running theme everywhere I go...there was even an article on Bellanaija.com about "it"...yep I'm breaching the ever so delicate subject of "Sex". The article was about how no matter where you turn, sex is being thrown at you...you put on the radio in lag and Tools sexy voice is seranading you, you put on MTV and Beyonce has got another video showing of her extensive lingerie collection..and lest we forget those never ending curves. Oh and don't even get me started on Nikki Minaj...(Whoosaaah)
So what's that all about?...as a young well travelled young man.. I'm defiantly a victim to the sexual innuendo and joke on the regular basis but reading that article I really had to take a second and think it through...if its like his now..what the heck are our children in for?...casual sex has well and truly cracked the traditional, overly protective Nigeria and yes it's all still "under G" but I bet most of you either know people who are "friends with benefits" or even have some yourself.
I'm not here to judge...hails no!...I'm just hoping to get your minds on the same track as mine. Yes yes...sex is great but think about it...back when we were all innocents and then we had that 1st real kiss...come on guys..you know what I mean...that first time you felt something below the belt as the touch of that special someone. Personally when I look back my hopeless romantic side was soo strong back then, mine was under the moon light in a shopping centre walkway all dark, secluded and romantic. I stopped her mid speech.. Pulled her into me and laid the kiss on her..I'll never forget that day or that girl.
But since then it's not been the same. Some girls were amazing but some....weren't. The way I see is...the barrage of sex everywhere...and I mean everywhere (even toy story 3 had so many hidden jokes) this has desensitized us they same way movies have mad blood and guts a norm. Sex used to be a thing of love and passion but now its just a passed time.
Well, I'm done...I'm done with the thrill of the case, the lyrics and lies, I'm done with the guys meet where we rehash game plays and new skills acquired. Life is more than the horizontal mambo (although when done right it's defiantly worth the hassle). I aint running away from women oh, and I aint saying I'm turning into a monk...I'm just saying its time to live my life and stop letting social expectation run my everyday decision making...
Oh urm...I'd like to continue but uhhh... Someone just walked in here and I have to..errr...tell her some very important things...*wink*
Ps...thanx for the ginger kemi
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